How to Form Secure Attachments with Eli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd
Welcome to another episode where we discuss parenting reprogramming through healing. Today, I have the privilege of sitting down with Eli Harwood; the Attachment Nerd, a remarkable individual who speaks on different attachment styles and how to form secure attachments.
Eli’s story began in a family marked by trauma, a history that propelled her into a profound personal transformation. At the tender age of nine, Eli witnessed her mother’s decision to change her lifestyle, sparking a realization in Eli about the dramatic impact such a shift could have. Recognizing the need for change in her own life and in the lives of others, she embarked on a journey of self-discovery. She pursued her master’s degree, delving into the intricate world of attachment theory, becoming captivated by the nuances of human connections and patterns.
In this episode, we explore the various attachment styles that define how we function as human beings. From the primal instinct of survival to the intricate dynamics of early bonds. Eli unpacks how comfort intertwines with our vulnerability, shaping our responses to the world around us. Crucially, she emphasizes the pivotal role caregivers play in our emotional development.
Our responses in life are deeply influenced by our caregivers’ emotional regulation and their attachment styles. Eli sheds light on how these coping mechanisms are passed down through generations, forming the basis of our own attachment styles. Eli speaks on how important it is to have a space to feel seen, safe, secure, and regulated. When we don’t experience these spaces in our childhoods, there may be negative side effects that we can pass on to our children.
Eli passionately explains the importance of creating spaces where individuals can feel seen, safe, secure, and regulated. She highlights the profound impact these environments, or the lack thereof, have on our childhoods and then our adulthood. When these nurturing spaces are absent, negative effects can flow through generations, and it is vitally important to break these cycles both individually and collectively.
You can expect to be enlightened about the power of understanding attachment styles in the context of parenting. Eli emphasizes the possibility of reparenting ourselves by examining our attachment styles and their origins by looking at the patterns woven throughout our lives, patterns that can be unraveled through introspection and inner work. Throughout this entire episode she inspires hope, showing us that with dedication and self-reflection, we can shift, change, and transform these patterns, ultimately fostering healthier relationships with ourselves and others.
But that’s not all – Eli has an exciting announcement to share. Her upcoming book, “Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships,” is a wealth of information and insights, offering practical tips and tricks to shift our attachment styles while healing the wounds left behind. This book isn’t just for individuals seeking personal growth; it is also a valuable resource for therapists, coaches, and anyone passionate about fostering healing and transformation from within.
Grab a cuppa, get comfy, and be ready for a powerful conversation that delves into the heart of attachment theory, parenting, and the incredible capacity we all possess to rewrite the narratives of our lives. Stay tuned for Eli Harwood’s wisdom, guiding us toward a more secure and fulfilling emotional future.
Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, creator of the Attachment Nerd Membership, author of the guided workbook: “Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Relationships”, and an educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, one cat, and an extraordinary number of plants.
Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, Threads @attachmentnerd
That is the link for any preorder before or order after Dec 5th!
In this Episode, we chat about…
01:14 The Journey
06:22 It’s not about being perfect…
07:11 Understanding Attachment
09:32 The attachment drive
11:51 The 4 Patterns of Attachment
20:30 The Strange Situation
25:04 Steps to take to work through your own Attachment Patterns
34:44 Learning to repel what you do not want to attract
40:22 Practices you can start using today
If you’re interested in discovering more practices, rituals, mantras, affirmations, and much more, I invite you to take a look at joining the Divine Woman Awakening course, an online journey to healing, self-discovery, and transformation. You can also join the Free Divine Women’s Gatherings here.
This is a safe space for you to express your authentic self, and be embraced by a circle of support and love where we can all grow together. You are Loved, and worthy and I’m so proud of your journey to purpose and awakening!
Are you subscribed to the Divine Woman Podcast? If not, please do so right now so you don’t miss one enlightening episode.
And if you took something away from today’s episode, I would love it if you left me a review over on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, or Stitcher as well! Reviews get the message out about this podcast, and I love hearing your feedback! Just select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what you loved about today’s episode.
You can also take a screenshot and post it to your Instagram Stories with your biggest takeaways and tag me @divinewomanawakening